How do you get rid of a whale?

    Sometimes, you are faced with a situation.  It seems huge and you don't even know where to begin.  Back after our Disney trip (I need to finish that...), we got news that my mother in law was failing.  We had known that she had been diagnosed with a rare disease - Amyloidosis.  What we didn't know was how quickly it would progress.  What we also didn't know was that Jarrad's company was going to sell his division and that there would be changes in how vacation was doled out.  In short, he had to fight and go above his superior's head in order to get the vacation time that he had put in for long before there was even a hint of a buy out. But that also meant that he went "in the hole" for 3 months. Which meant that he had no vacation time to use to go and see his mom.  I am giving you the short version and it was not pretty.  Why do we have to fight for the "privilege" of being with our families?  You ever see that commercial where the kids are asking for one more day?  It isn't that parents don't want to take one more day, it is because they aren't ALLOWED to!
     But, I am getting off topic.  And if I seem frustrated - I am!

     However, because of the buy out, there was restructuring - yeah! - and Jarrad has a new boss.  This one is a bit more compassionate and seems to have common sense.  This one found out what was going on and said that he was ok if Jarrad did his work in the car or after "normal" business hours (and since they have clients on the west coast, well, normal has a broad definition).  Because of that, we were able to traverse 7 states, 32 driving hours and 10 days in order for Jarrad to see his mom and say good bye.  We combined it with a trip for a family reunion on my side since it would save us a whole 2 hours to leave from PA.
     Huh, that means that it was 36 hours of driving...
     We tried to turn it into a road trip of sorts.  We would drive for about 3 or 4 hours, stop at a museum for an hour or 2 and drive a couple of more hours to a hotel.  Jarrad would stretch out, find and order dinner and the kids and I would unpack.  Get up the next morning and repeat.
     We are now Hilton Honors "Blue" Members!  Only 14 more stays and we upgrade to "Silver".
     Whoo hoo! 
     What did we learn?
     1.  That I need to evaluate my packing system that has worked for the past 4 years because the kids are getting older and can help.
     2.  That road trips aren't as bad as I was dreading if they are broken into chunks.
     3.  That I love my bed.
     4.  That people be crazy when they be driving!
     5.  That I miss my bed.
     6.  That there are some really cool places to stop and visit on the way.
     7.  That we are "cool" Auntie and Uncle.
     8.  I really, really love my bed!
     We tried to be upbeat?  adventurous? about the trip.  Hence the stops to sight see.  But the point of the trip was for Jarrad got to spend time with his mom.  It was hard to see her.  She was tiny to begin with and now, she is smaller still.  Hospice has told my sister in law that the body knows how to die.  There is even a pamphlet.  We know about the cycles of grief and that the cycles don't go in order nor do they end.  We have all this knowledge but the reality is something different.  It comes in waves and sometimes, it leaves a whale on the beach.